Dear Salty Vixen,
In the beginning of the month, my ex had been asking me what I wanted for my birthday. I told him it’s not necessary for an ex to give a present since he is an ex and presents are only for best friends and boyfriends. But, if he really felt that it was necessary to give me something, I gave him some suggestions. I was then surprised that he never even called to wish me a happy birthday. He was showing so much interest before and I really wanted to continue to see whether we could start something again. Now I’m just puzzled. I never called to ask him why he forgot, when we’ve never forgotten each other’s birthday before. Should I assume that he’s not interested in keeping even our friendship going, let alone explore the possibility of starting over again? I really miss him. -Confused About Ex Relations
Dear Confused About Ex Relations,
If you wanted to explore the possibility of reuniting, you shouldn’t have told him not to get you a present. I certainly wouldn’t have put it the way you did. Basically, you just told him he wasn’t important enough anymore to buy you something. I couldn’t tell you whether he isn’t interested in being friends or not.
The only way to know is to ask. Let him know you realized that what you said before about the birthday present probably came out wrong. You just wanted to make sure he didn’t feel obligated to buy you something. If you want to renew the friendship, go and do some things together. Or, give him a call once in a while just to talk about things.
Do not under any circumstances give in to playing games to see what he’s thinking. You’ll just turn him off and lose the friendship, let alone any chance of reconciliation.
XOXO,
