Lesbian & Bisexual Sex FAQ: Real Answers to Your Most Common Questions

Everything and anything that feels good! Kissing, touching, oral sex, fingering, grinding (tribbing), using toys, massage, nipple play, dirty talk… there’s no single “script.” The best sex happens when you explore what turns both of you on.

Yes. Even between women, STIs can be passed through skin-to-skin contact, sharing toys, or oral sex. Use dental dams for oral, clean toys properly, and get regular STI testing. Protection is still important even in monogamous relationships.

Tribadism (or tribbing) is when two women rub their vulvas together for pleasure. It can be done in many positions — missionary-style, scissoring, one on top, etc. It’s very intimate and feels amazing for many women.

Lube makes everything feel better and more comfortable. It reduces friction, prevents irritation, and makes fingering, toys, and tribbing much more pleasurable. Never feel ashamed for using it — most lesbian couples use lube regularly.

Fisting is when one partner slowly inserts their entire hand into the other’s vagina (or sometimes anus). It requires lots of arousal, lube, patience, and trust. When done right, it can create incredibly intense orgasms.

It’s when a woman releases fluid from the Skene’s glands (near the G-spot) during intense stimulation. Not every woman does it, and the amount varies. It can feel amazing and is completely normal.

The G-spot is usually 2–3 inches inside the vagina on the front wall (toward your belly button). It feels slightly ridged or spongy. Use a “come here” motion with your fingers or a curved toy while you’re very aroused.

A term used to describe when long-term lesbian couples stop having sex. It’s not inevitable! It usually happens when couples stop making intimacy a priority. With effort and communication, you can keep the spark alive for decades.

A toy shaped like a penis (or sometimes other shapes) used for penetration or external stimulation. They come in many sizes, materials, and styles. Many lesbian couples love using them with a harness (strap-on).

It can be very pleasurable but requires extra care. Always use lots of lube, go very slowly, and never switch from anus to vagina without cleaning. Communication and relaxation are key.

Sadomasochism — consensual play involving power exchange, spanking, bondage, sensory play, etc. It can range from light and fun to very intense. Safety, consent, and communication are essential.

It can. Many women who identify as lesbian still have occasional fantasies about men, and many bisexual women lean more toward women. Your label is yours to choose. What matters most is who you want to be with and love.