Your sex life has gone from hot to not. Want to turn up the heat? Try some pillow talk. Afraid you won’t do it right?
Here 5 tips for building that momentum: ( I have articles on "dirty talk")
1. Get your motor humming before bedtime.
We expect to get into bed and be immediately turned on and that doesn’t happen when you’ve been together a long time and you’ve got kids and busy lives. It’s not like you suddenly switch on this gear and become this sex goddess.
The best way to turn into that sex goddess at bedtime?
Start revving your and his engine early in the day. Leave him a flirty text, that always works such as “I just got out of the shower” or “my nipples are instantly hard” - you can also do my favorite that works every .single. time.. check out my: “Virtual Blow Job script”
2. Read some erotica.
I write Loverotica! Depending what you fancy, there are so man different erotica topics. I had to learn over the years. Most searched are “facesitting”, and “spanking”. I write for you, the reader.
Finding a good story serves two purposes. First, it helps heat you up. Second, erotica is a terrific antidote if you freeze up when your partner craves some stimulating conversation.
If you fancy a good smut store, use it! Recount the plot to your partner, inserting yourselves as the main characters. There’s also a certain safety about this because, you’re playing a role, so the words coming out of your mouth can be less associated with the person you are outside of the bedroom. Check out my Loverotica section:
https://www.saltyvixenstories.com/loverotica/
3. Relive your past adventures.
Your previous sexcapades – the time you got busy in the backseat of a cab or in the laundry room at your parents house – is another excellent source of ready-made sexy material. It can be even better than a book… because it happened to you! Reminiscing about earlier adventures removes the burden of coming up with something erotic on the spot. - For me, is when I got my First “O” from a hug, on a trip to Nashville, Tennessee back in 1995. Yeah, agreed, at the time I had no idea what happened lol. Still was a hot moment- and later the virtual sex session, me naked on a chair. That. Was. Hot. I let the dude take charge and that was hot. I am Dom - but sometimes letting someone else be Dom is hot!
4. Shower him with compliments.
When you’re really at a loss for words, complimenting just about anything about your partner – his sensuous lips, the feel of his chest, the way his fingers touch you – eliminates the pressure to be creative. Or simply comment on the action: “The way you ____ drives me wild” will undoubtedly be well received. Try focusing on a very specific thing your partner does – for example, the way he kisses that spot on your neck and how it makes you feel.
5. Share a fantasy.
This could be considered “advanced sexy talk” for when you get more comfortable with naughty pillow talk. Narrate a scenario that hasn’t happened, but that you might like to happen. Maybe you want to play head cheerleader to his quarterback or you’d like to play an X-rated game of doctor. It allows you to push your sexual limits and talk about things without actually having to experience them.
But, when you share a fantasy you’re definitely going out on a limb, especially if you’re not sure how your partner will react.
It’s opening up a window to who you are sexually, and that can make you feel vulnerable...But if your partner is receptive to it, then it’s like Wow! This is great!”
