GET BACK IN THE GAME
Dating again after divorce is a daunting prospect to some women but if you want to look for a new partner, then it is necessary to date. The first step is to make sure you are ready to date and you aren’t being pressured into it by family and friends. Once you feel you have accepted the divorce and are ready to move on, then you are ready to date. Here are some dating tips to help you get through those first few dates.
DOS AND DON’TS FOR DATING AGAIN AFTER A DIVORCE
Do put your divorce behind you and look to the future. Once you begin dating, you don’t want to be that woman who continues to talk about her ex-husband on every date she goes on. You are looking to find a new person to share your life with, so leave the old life behind and don’t make the ex the topic of conversation.
Don’t judge all men by your experiences with your ex-husband. If you had a bitter divorce, it can be easy to think that all men lie, cheat or want to use you. Instead of comparing all men to your ex, remember that every date you go on is a fresh start with a different man.
Do be open to new ideas and experiences. As we grow older, we tend to stick to old habits and don’t leave ourselves open to new ideas and experiences. We can only grow as people by trying new things, so as long as you are comfortable with a new experience, go ahead and try it.
DATE IDEAS FOR DIVORCED WOMEN
The average divorced woman has been married for several years and has children, so getting back in to the dating scene can be challenging. You probably don’t want to hit the twenty-something club scene but you are a far cry from the shuffleboard scene too. When going on a first date with a new man, stick to the basics like dinner, a movie or going out to a quite place for a drink. Going to a local play or band concert is also a good way to spend time with someone you are just getting to know. As your time together progresses, you might enjoy a sporting event together, visit a local museum or explore a historical site nearby.
WAYS TO SPICE UP A NEW RELATIONSHIP
If you and the new man in your life are seeing each other regularly, it may be time to spice things up. Plan a weekend away together to the beach, a casino or a romantic bed and breakfast or inn. Occasionally send a text message to your new man in the middle of the day letting him know you are thinking of him and are excited about your next date. Or dress up for an evening of dinner and dancing at a posh club. Doing something out of the ordinary can spice up a regular date night.
