Many women and men find themselves not enjoying their intimate relationship with their partner because of one simple hang up -- themselves! If this describes you, read on!
An intimate relationship is one of unbelievable proximity. You're shedding more than just your clothes and your sharing more than just passion, or a good time. By being intimate with someone, you're allowing someone else to see you for who you really are, inside and out. And that can be frightening!
If this is something you'd like to change, or you want to help your partner with, try one of the following ideas:
- Don't get intimately involved with someone you don't trust or respect.
- Talk about your intimate relationship BEFORE you actually do anything.
- Let your partner know what you are feeling. If you are uncomfortable, let them know. If you see that your partner is uncomfortable, talk about ways to make them comfortable.
- Do something to improve the area you feel insecure about.
- For women, wear something you are comfortable in.
- Give each other constant lover's praise. Let your partner know they look great, or that you desire them. Do unexpected acts to back up your words.
- Tell each other your intimate expectations. This way no one feels left out, unloved or unappreciated!
Assignment: Acknowledge one thing each week that you feel insecure about. Get a journal and write about it. Include how it makes you feel, why it is a problem for you, when you started feeling this way and what conditions in your life were factors of this problem. Don't worry about fixing the problem, just write about it, read it over and acknowledge what you've written.
