If you have a best friend that you have more than friendly feelings for, and you are struggling to keep your feelings inside, stop struggling! Just let it out. I am convinced that the majority of successful romances began as friendships, and that too many of us choose to do things backwards causing our romantic affairs to fail again and again. True love isn't always hard to find. Chances are that your best friend is exactly who you are looking for. So, while I think there are precautions to take, I say go for it. Before you make your move, read through the suggestions below. They will help ensure an unforgettable moment of truth.
Food for Thought
- Don't be discouraged by what the grapevine blubbers. If the word is that your friend doesn't wish to advance your relations because risking your friendship isn't worth it…pay the rumor no mind. We all deny the truth on occasion to avoid an embarrassing rejection after an awkward, "I heard that you said that…"
- Give yourself enough time to really be sure about your feelings. If your friendship is new, there is a big chance that your feelings are nothing but a crush and will pass. In that case, you would be out a friendship when your romantic feelings diminished.
- If you are nervous, test the waters. There are easy little tricks to use to see if someone likes you that way. Here's one: To escape the rain while shopping, take your friend's hand and take off running. Another appropriate time to do this is during a walk on the beach. Again, grab their hand and take off running to splash in a wave. Sounds silly, I know, but after the sprint is when you get your answers. Are they still holding your hand? Do they get closer to you than normal? Do they seem a little embarrassed or awkward for a moment? All of these things are good signs. If you don't receive revelation after this experiment, wait a couple of days and try another slight physical advance and assess their reaction to that one.
Romantic Ways to Reveal Your Affection
- Kiss first; talk later. When saying goodbye for the day, take them close and just go for it. There are a couple of different kisses to choose from in this situation. One is the full on lip smacker. Don't use tongue unless they do. Be soft with your lips and your hands. The other is a fun kiss because it allows for first, second and third moves. Same scenario: at the good-bye for now. Give them a quick, but sensual peck on the cheek. Let your face linger near theirs for a couple of seconds before retreating back to your space. That will probably be followed by a question like, "What was that for?" Your answer should be cute and romantic (move number 2). You should say something like, "Oh, I just chickened out…what I meant to do was this!" And then, of course, move number three is the lip smacker. Cup their face in your hands and lay it on them. Kissing this way gives your friend a moment to anticipate your kiss. It ensures that your first kiss is a great kiss.
- Be spontaneous. At no particular place, at no particular time, just spill the beans. Simply stop doing whatever it is that you are doing, turn to your friend and tell them that the feelings you have for them are so strong that you are willing to sustain possible rejection and pain. You think about them when you wake up in the morning. You have to force yourself to walk away from them every night. Explain that you are laying your heart out for them to take or leave, but that the chance to hold them in your arms is worth the risk.
- Plan it out. Take them to somewhere utterly romantic and recite to them your written feelings. Treat it like a sort of proposal. Not for marriage, but for moving to the next tier in your relationship. Say something about the past, present and what you would like for the future.
Whichever way you choose to let your feelings emerge; know that you are igniting the first flames of true love. Someday, maybe you will be telling your grandchildren the tale of when you took the leap of love. Make it unforgettable.
