Are you one of the millions of women who have enjoyed sex for years but have never had an orgasm? Or are you considering masturbation but not quite sure what techniques will give you the most pleasurable experience? Whatever the case, masturbation is a normal, healthy part of your sexuality to explore in several different ways and have fun doing it.
First, you should know how your body works “down there.” A woman achieves orgasm through the direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris, which is located at the top of the vagina. The clitoris is small and hidden under a kind of hood. It is much like the tip of a penis in that it is very sensitive and connected to a shaft, which cannot be seen on the outside. As the clitoris is stimulated, muscles contract and spasm and you eventually experience orgasm.
Different women masturbate in different ways. Some women find one way that works and sticks with it. Others like to experiment with several different techniques. Try some of the following. Lie down, relax, think sexy thoughts and have fun!
The Two-Finger Approach
Begin rubbing your clitoris with your fingers (most women prefer their index and middle fingers on one hand). You can rub the hood over the clitoris or lift the hood and rub the clitoris directly. You may find it irritating or painful to directly stimulate the clitoris — it just depends on your level of sensitivity. Experiment with different strokes, pressure and speed to find out what feels best. As you become excited your vagina will become lubricated. Using vaginal juice on your fingers as you continue to rub your clitoris will allow for easier stimulation. Keep rubbing until you begin to feel your muscles tighten. You are on your way to an orgasm. You may want to stimulate yourself further by massaging your breasts or playing with your nipples.
Vibrators
Vibrators are a popular way to achieve an intense orgasm. Depending on how sensitive you are, you may want to position the vibrator above your clitoris, over the hood, and not directly on the clitoris. These devices can give off some pretty strong vibrations, so you should be able to have a very pleasurable orgasm with indirect stimulation.
Squeeze Play
This is an intriguing technique because it can really be done anywhere, even while you’re fully clothed! Simply squeeze your thigh muscles together and then release, repeating continuously until you achieve orgasm. It may help to cross your legs at the knees for more control. If you do this in public, just make sure you don’t scream out in ecstasy!
In the Shower
Turn on the shower head with a comfortable water temperature (warm is usually best) and pressure. Lie down in the bathtub so that your clitoris is in direct contact with the water flow (or, if possible, remove the shower head and point it directly at your clitoris — this can even be done while standing). If lying down, you will probably need to separate and lift your legs to get the right position. Let the water flow on your clitoris as you run your hands over your wet body. You’ll get there in no time!
These are just a few of the many possible techniques you can use to achieve the ultimate orgasm. Of course, the best orgasms are those that you have with your partner. If you think your mate would be upset or uncomfortable with your masturbation, do it privately. Your partner will only reap the benefits of your new skills the next time you’re together!
