A quick pat on the bottom, an over the knee spanking, or a full out whipped butt are pleasures that many people delight in giving and receiving. Some do it as part of sex, some do it just for the spanking itself. However you would like to try it out, please keep in mind, there is an etiquette involved. Here is what you need to know:
- Talk about it first. If you want to spank beyond the light love pats, then you need to get permission, or ask your partner to do this for you. Define the following:
- How you want to spank/be spanked. Over the knee spanking, on your hands and knees, bent over the bed, standing up grabbing your ankles? What sounds like the most fun?
- What do you want to be spanked with? A bare hand(s), a whip, a cane, a hairbrush, a kitchen wooden spoon? Outline what implements you are willing to try.
- Set your safe words. I suggest RED for stop and YELLOW for back off/ease up. That way if you start to feel that you are being spanked too hard, you can either stop the spanking, or ease up on it.
- Do you want to be talked to dirty when you are being spanked? How do you want to be talked to? Should it be like role-playing, or just good old fashioned with no words involved? If you aren’t sure, try a couple of different ways.
After you’ve set the boundaries, then it’s time to get started! The spanker has full responsibility here and this is where the etiquette and technique come into play. Follow these tips for a great experience for you both!
- Make sure you are in control of where you are spanking. Aim for the flesh parts of the butt. Lighter spanking can be pleasurable on the upper legs, but keep the harder spanking to the butt, one cheek at a time.
- Warm your partner up with some softer spanks and caresses. You want your partner to be as relaxed as possible for the most pleasure. You can even add other stimulation as well, such as caressing their genitals or using a vibrator along with the spanking. Some light tickling and scratching sensations can also increase their pleasure.
- Vary the spanking between hard and light, a couple of light swats and then a heavier one will keep them on the edge of suspense, not quite knowing which one is coming up next.
- Change up on the textures as well. If you are using your hand, try spanking with a flat hand and fingers spread for a more stinging spank, or cup your hand for more of a thudding sensation. Different whips, paddles, hairbrushes, etc… will give you additional options for different types of spanking experiences.
- When the spanking is over, it’s time for after care. Stroke your partner lovingly until the redness starts to go down a little. Make sure you let your partner know how enjoyable it was for you to share that experience with them.
This should be all you need to know to get started on your delightful adventures of spanking! Have a great time and make sure and experiment with many different ways of doing it, you’ll never know what feels great until you try it.
