Since the start of time, we have all seen news and magazine reports on what women really want in a man. We have had stereotypes created and thrown at us from all directions and they always seem to change, depending on what station you watch or what newspaper/magazine you read.
In the 80's we had the Yuppie, a man driven by material wealth and the pursuit of acquisition and social status that had women swooning all over the place. The 90's saw the advent of "new man" - the strong, sensitive type that would think nothing of helping out with the dishes, doing the laundry or changing diapers. With all these schools of thought offering different opinions on what the current ideal male should be, I decided to turn to do a little research on the subject and come up with my own conclusions and as decades continue to change so does the idea of what men/women really want? Answer is, not really.
The ideal man is actual a variant of the 80's male in that he is still has a take charge, strong personality but he has also met his match - the woman. Now, in order to fully understand what the ideal man should be, one really has to understand women.
A woman is no longer, and hasn't been for quite some time, the weaker sex. She just likes to be looked after and romanced. She likes to be swept of her feet just as much as she likes to be in control and she wants a man that has the ability to allow both sides of her character to flourish, without being a wimp. He can be kind and sensitive, but he can never be a victim.
Masculinity is a huge turn on for women. That does not mean that he has to have the body of Hercules, but he must be someone she can proudly show off to her friends and associates. While he does not have to be wealthy or have a great job, he does need to offer security for the woman. He needs to be strong in his convictions, well spoken and have personal goals. In other words, he must have dreams and have the ability to achieve them. If things don't go his way, he gets on with life rather than feels sorry for himself. He also has to be an excellent lover, husband and father.
Now what this actually means in real life varies with each woman, but the basics are pretty much as described above. Today's man is actually closer to the classical John Wayne type hero than anything else, in that he is strong and full of character and willing to take charge, but more importantly, he needs to offer security to the woman in his life. I guess what I am really trying to say here is that, guys, it is not really as hard as you have been led to believe. You can be a woman's Prince Charming, just be self-confident, articulate and believe in yourself!
Remember, always kind and love to each other! That is the MOST IMPORTANT THING! 😉
