Relationships are dynamic, constantly changing. When answering these questions, think about the past six months rather than the whole of your relationship. Answer them from your perspective, not your spouses. For your privacy, you can click the check boxes. This test is not connected to a database; only you will know your answers.
You can print out this page (below is the PDF version of this article) if you'd like to share the results with your spouse. Often spouses find out they both feel the same way yet both are afraid to bring it up. Discussing the results may be all that is needed to turn your low sex marriage into happy healthy and frisky again.
If you or your spouse are currently under long-term doctor's care for depression, substance abuse, cancer etc, or experiencing tremendous stress (loss of job, death in the family etc...) your answers will not be accurate. These are temporary issues that over time will correct themselves with treatment or the natural passage of time. High stress does effect sex and could deliver a 'false positive' due to current conditions.
Now the obligatory indemnification: This test is not intended to substitute for professional advice, treatment or counsel and should be used for entertainment purposes only.
- Is sex to you more work than play?
- Does intimate touching, (caressing, kisses, massages etc) always lead to intercourse?
- Does intimate touching take place only in the bedroom?
- Do you no longer look forward to making love?
- Does sex with your partner fail to give you feelings of connection and sharing?
- Have you found you no longer (within the past six months) have sexual thoughts or fantasies about your partner?
- Do you only have sex at predetermined intervals such as Saturday night or Sunday morning?
- Does only only one of you initiate sex?
- Do you look back on your single days as the best time and sex you've ever had?
- Has sex with you're partner become mechanical and routine?
- In an average month, how often do you and your spouse have sex?
