You've been asked out on a date and you've spent hours preparing yourself. When your date arrives, you open the door discovering that they're dressed in jeans and an old T-shirt, while you on the other hand have spent a lot of time dressing to impress. You smile and go anyway despite the feeling of nausea already present in the pit of your stomach. In the car you are informed that the plan, if you could call it that, was to grab some pizza and go to the local drive-in. Already you are wishing that the date was over.
The movie was horrible, the car reeked and the pizza would have been good if it hadn't gotten cold due to your date droning on about his past high school football highlights. To put it nicely, the date was a disaster! So... what do you do when it's time to say good night when the thought of even being 10 feet near him makes you want to cry in horror? How do you let them down easy? How do you avoid the end of the date kiss? Read on...
Sometimes being nice is just not the way to go. Doing so could led to mixed feelings and/or unwanted advances. In this situation, just thank them for the date and explain to them that they are not the type of person you are looking for. Don't tell them that you want to be friends, unless you are really serious about being their friend. And, most importantly, if you don't want to see the person again then make it very clear to them how you feel.
If you've been "lucky" enough to have been asked on another date, try replying with something like:
- "You're not the type of person I am looking for."
- "I think we could both find someone who is more compatible."
- "I don't think that this is going to work."
Giving one of these lines will not only let your date down easy, but it will save you the trouble of the final kiss.
You don't need to go out of your way to hurt your date's feelings, but don't hide the truth trying to spare their feelings either. Be honest and let them know how you feel.
