Sometimes we screw up badly and we don’t even blame our partners for wanting to leave. It’s true that we don’t often know what we have until it’s gone and breaking up can be one of those eye-opening moments. The most important thing however is that you learn from this experience and walk away understanding where it went wrong and how it could be prevented in the future.
That however, isn’t going to get your ex to come back to you. You should be careful to assume reuniting with your ex would mean resuming the relationship from where it left off. It doesn’t. Often it means a lot more work and possibly more fear of them leaving in the future.
Insecurities build and come back to haunt us and sometimes the relationship can get turned into something far worse and ugly for your soul.As one of the most memorable lines from Stephen King’s classic Pet Cemetery “sometimes, dead is better”. It could roughly apply here… sometimes things are far best left broken.
Now, that is not to say I’m trying to turn you away from wanting to reunite, and I think you would know your situation best. I just want you to take things slow at first and look at the possibility of reuniting as a new start for your relationship.
Having the right attitude is hugely important if you want to re-attract your ex back into your life. You want to show them through actions that you’re willing to do what it takes to make the relationship work and a little hiccup right now is not going to deter you.
Your ex should not have any doubts if he or she is considering coming back. Show them the choice is easy and not something they need to fear or second-guess themselves about. The way you do this is by allowing them to lower their defenses and open up around you.
Sharing deep emotions and feelings is a good sign that they trust you and is willing to let you into their ‘inner circle’. This is important if you want your ex to come back with open arms and without a doubt that you could possibly hurt them again.
Rebuilding the trust and friendship should be a step in the reconciliation process and not a substitute for your current relationship. Always keep in mind your aim is to get back together as a couple and not as anything less.
