Women masturbate. You know that, I know that… it’s pretty much common knowledge at this point. But for some reason, female masturbation is one of the biggest taboos in our culture. It all goes back to stigmas surrounding women’s sexuality and desire and old timey views on sexuality in general. I’ve never understood how something so harmless and good for you could be so fraught with shame, but then again I am a sex positive, liberal, lezzie sex educator with a specialty in women’s pleasure, so really, how could I understand that?
In my opinion, one of the saddest missteps of our sex education system (at least in the U.S.) is our glossing over of masturbation, especially for women. People are always razzing women about faking orgasms, but the reality of the situation is: how do we expect someone to know how they like to get off if we never give them the tools to explore themselves? So, in defiance of this asinine idea that lady self lovin’ be kept under wraps, I’m here to shout it from the rooftops and talk about all the different ways that women get themselves off!
There is no one right way to masturbate. Masturbation is a wholly personal experience that really comes down to stimulating your body in whatever way feels good. Sure, the woman in that porno you just watched was flat on her back with her legs spread open, gently stroking her clit with two fingers. Sure, that’s one way to jerk off (the most camera angle friendly way, even), but as with anything else in porno, it’s definitely not the do all and say all when it comes to sex. That said, there are an infinite number of ways that women get themselves off. The techniques mentioned below are really just a drop in the bucket (well, the most common drops) when it comes to women getting busy solo style.
While there are tons of ways to do it, most women masturbate by stimulating their clitoris, whole vulva, vagina or a combo of all or some of them. Some women get themselves hotter by touching their breasts, thighs and other erogenous zones, but usually need some sort of genital component to reach the big O. The G-spot is can also be a big player during masturbation. It may be difficult for women to reach on their own, but there are sex toys that are specifically shaped to hit the sweet spot.
Lots of people, both men and women, use sex toys to get off. Vibrators, dildos, anal beads – the whole gamut, but for the purpose of this tips, I am going to skip these methods and highlight fingers, hands humping and all those other fun non-toy ways to masturbate.
Let’s start with the clitoris, or clit. The pleasure center of a woman, the clit is the one body part that’s only function is to make you feel good. How awesome is that?! To get off, many women touch their clit (the glans of it – the whole clitoris is a structure that reaches into the body and down under the labia!) directly, using one or two fingers to rub, flick, go in little circles, or move back and forth on their button.
Some gals think that direct contact with their clit is too much and prefer to stimulate around it instead, including around the hood. Sometimes women rub the tissue around their clit, causing the hood to stroke the clit directly, which can be just enough stimulation to get them off but not overwhelm or become painful to them. Rubbing outside the panties is also a way that cuts the power of direct clit stim. Women rub fast, flick slow, press hard or barely have to touch themselves to get off – whatever works for their own body!
Some women also love penetration during masturbation, both vaginally and/or anally. The flexible ones can penetrate themselves with their fingers, but for the rest of us, there are dildos, butt plugs, beads, etc. One great thing about going into the vagina is the G-Spot – a squishy magic spot about 2 inches in on the anterior wall of the vagina. Some women love having their G-Spot touched, others hate it. Just like everything else having to do with sex, it comes down to being all about preference. Many women enjoy having both their clit and vag and/or bottom stimulated at the same time when they jerk off too. The more the merrier!
To reach all these good bits by hand, many women lay on their back with their legs apart. Others prefer to lay on their belly and have the weight of their body add to the pressure of their touch. Or on their knees, or on their side, or with their legs pressed together – whatever way feels comfortable for them.
Not all women masturbate with their hand or sex toys. Some women prefer grinding or humping instead. Remember climbing the rope in gym class? That tingling feeling when the rope was moving through your legs? Something like that. It can be a pillow, a towel, a piece of furniture, the edge of the bed, another person’s leg… basically anything you can straddle or lean into, you can hump and grind. Some women can also get off by squeezing their thighs together to stimulate their clit.
Shower time is also a popular masturbation destination for women. Detachable showerheads are perfect for women to let the water stream hit their clit. Plus, they can control the power of the stream and the stimulation they get. The faucet works the same way, with the woman laying in the bathtub with her clit under the stream, which can be a tricky position for some.
There are also women that can come from stroking and playing with their nipples only. Many women use breast and erogenous zone touches to enhance their arousal, but cannot come from it alone. There are also a select few women that can come from thoughts and breathing alone, without any physical stimulation at all. Neat, huh?
All in all, women masturbate in millions of different ways. These are just a select few that populate the most common ways that ladies go solo. Masturbation is all about getting off and enjoying yourself. Whether you stroke, hump, pull, push, rub or vibrate - whatever works for you is the best way for you to masturbate!
Have any other ways you find fun? Comment away!
xoxo
