Bondage is where one person is restrained by another and usually at their mercy. Once a person is restrained, a number of other sexually arousing activities may follow, which can range from tickling and feathers to various forms of punishment incorporating paddles, whips, nipple clamps, and other BDSM devices.
For the most part, bondage and associated activities are a stylized form of fantasy play, where the bondage role players often negotiate ahead of time the rules of the bondage fantasy play so that the bondage or BDSM activities remain consensual between the partners. Often the participants in bondage play create a safeword to indicate that the dominatrix has pushed the limits of the submissive.
A safeword is a word that is out of context with the fantasy bondage scene and has a definite meaning of "STOP". Typically, one safeword is used to end the bondage playing, while another is used to tone things down in the bondage fantasy. Safewords are very important part of bondage or bdsm play, and must be taken seriously.
It is important during bondage play to make sure that your partner is not so tightly bound that their circulation is cut off and just in case the bondage play becomes too intense or painful, have a pair of scissors on hand to cut your bondage partner free quickly. Try to avoid bondage play that ties things around the neck and never cover the mouth or nose in a way that could impair breathing. The number one reported cause of injury during bondage play is falling due to an inability to break one's fall. With a little common sense, bondage can be a safe and arousing form of play.
Bondage or any other BDSM activities should be introduced slowly into your sex play. Try starting with simple bondage using soft materials (such as soft rope or fleece padded cuffs) where arms are perhaps secured behind their back. If the bondage fantasy was mutually enjoyed, experiment with more elaborate bondage, such as securing arms and legs. From that point perhaps incorporate bondage to a stationary object such as a bed or perhaps introduce a blindfold. Building trust for this type of bondage play is essential, and you should not rush into serious bondage play if your partner is not willing.
