Bringing a woman to an exhilarating and satisfying orgasm is no small feat. For many women, orgasms are as hard to discover as an affordable and painless permanent hair-removal solution. In a perfect world, women would be able to have orgasms every time they have sex (like you), and you would have a washboard stomach and a piece that would make a donkey jealous. We might not live in a perfect world, but her having orgasms most times -- if not every time -- you get it on isn’t impossible. In fact, it is entirely achievable, but it will take a little bit of thought and a whole lot of practice.
THE KEY TO HER ORGASM
It is a well-known fact that the majority of women cannot orgasm from penetration alone; there must be some clitoral stimulation as well. This means that any position where a part of your body (or other object such as a pillow or toy) is touching and rubbing on her clitoris, while stimulating the entrance to her vagina and her G-spot, bodes very well for the female orgasm. The key is getting the clitoris and vagina working in perfect harmony with your body. This is not necessarily as easy as it sounds.
Achieving feminine orgasmic success depends on a lot of factors, not just hitting the right spot. It is incredibly important that she is sufficiently turned on. If she is in a heightened state of excitement and you are performing well; she won’t be far off from having an orgasm reasonably easily. If she doesn’t seem to be dying for it, try more foreplay; your combined success rate will soar because women need to be warmed up to enjoy sex at an orgasmic level.
FEMALE-FRIENDLY POSITIONS
1. The missionary
The first position is the missionary. It may sound boring and unadventurous, but this position allows your your pubic mound to rub against her clitoris while you are inside her, which will help trigger an orgasm. Putting a pillow under her bottom will also help get the right angle to hit her G-spot. She can also grind against you and move her hips to greet you. This position is a standard one and you almost can’t go wrong with it, but the most important factor in good sex is communication; if it’s not working, she needs to tell you it’s not working. Experiment!
2. Doggy style
This position is definitely female friendly when done properly, though there are keys for its success. Many men reach around to stimulate the clitoris with their fingers, which is great, but for some reason -- probably due to being distracted with our own pleasure -- we stop. This is a big mistake, because when you stop halfway, you effectively halt her progress. She probably won’t say anything since it is still very enjoyable; its just not orgasmic.
It can be easier if she stimulates her clitoris, though this can be a bit unsteady since she will only have one arm to hold herself up. Talk to her and figure out what suits her best: you working her clitoris or her. For the less well-endowed among you, doggy style allows for deeper penetration, which can be more satisfying for her. It can also make you orgasm faster, so make sure to slow it down or take a quick break when you need to -- and be sure to keep that hand in place.
3. Her on top No.1
Lie on your back while she straddles you. This position allows her to control the angle, speed and pressure of penetration, while giving her the leverage to stimulate her clitoris by rubbing it on your pubic bone and lower abdomen. It is important for the success of this position that the area of your body that her clitoris is rubbing on is slightly wet, which makes the motion smooth and slippery. She may not know this fact, so you may need to take the initiative and wet it with saliva or lube.
4. Her on top No. 2
She will need to be comfortable pleasuring herself to be able to get off with this one. You lie down on the bed or floor while she faces your feet and straddles you. This position gives great G-spot stimulation for her and a great view for you. She can pleasure her own clitoris (which is a benefit because she can do it just how she likes) and create her own rhythm with her hips.
If she is uncomfortable with her body she may not be too keen on this position as her butt will be on full display, but give her a ”lights-out” option if she needs it; she might just find this position tinkles her bells.
5. On a chair
A sturdy armless chair (like a dining chair) provides a great base for a couple of different girl-on-top scenarios. It’s almost impossible for her clitoris not to rub on your stomach and pubic area if she is facing you, and she can manually stimulate her clitoris if she is facing your feet. The angles are excellent -- she can go as deep as she needs to and set the pace as she goes.
HITTING HER HAPPY PLACE
Every woman can have orgasms; it’s just a matter of finding the right combination of stimulation to get her off. Don’t forget that she is responsible for her own pleasure and needs to experiment on her own (and with you) to find out what suits her best. You are not in solely responsible for providing her with sexual satisfaction, so if she can’t orgasm, don’t blame yourself. Remember that it takes two to tango and she needs to figure out what gets her going -- with or without your help. Changing positions may very well help her, but if it doesn't, you can try other methods of stimulation, such as having different or longer foreplay or using sex toys. Whatever you do, don’t give up 🙂
