First Time Lesbian Sex: Tips for your first lesbian sexual experience

There’s a lot wrapped up in your first time lesbian sexual experience. Whether it’s your first time having sex at all, or your first time having sex with another woman, being nervous is normal. There’s so much cultural hype about “your first time” and “losing your virginity.” One thing is true, you never do forget your first time. Here’s some tips to get you through your first time lesbian sexual experience.

1. Get to know your own body. Before you can even think about turning someone else on, it’s good to know what excites you. Yes, I’m talking about masturbation. Spend some time one-on-one with yourself. As you touch yourself and find the places that feel good, you’ll know where to touch her. And more importantly, how to tell her what turns you on.

2. Go sober. You want to remember your first lesbian sex. Sometimes alcohol or drugs can lower your inhibitions and make the first move easier, but you’re not as likely to do or say something regrettable if you’re sober.

3. Go Safe. Yes, lesbians need to worry about sexually transmitted diseases including HIV and AIDS. Be prepared to bring the topic up with your partner. Unfortunately, safe sex is still not talked about very often in the lesbian community, or in any community, especially with online dating apps.  

Always ask ahead of time. When it comes to dating, I do the 3 and 1/2 week rule. I get to know the person on the dating app, exchange numbers, chat, do a background check, then meet if I feel safe.

4. Fantasize. It all begins with fantasy. If you’re ready to sleep with another woman, you must have thought about it. What are those thoughts? Does she throw you down on the bed and have her way with you? Or do you go skinny dipping in your backyard pool? There’s a saying, you must imagine it before you can do it.

5. Leave the toys in the drawer. There will be plenty of time to learn about and play with sex toys. Let your first time be simple flesh-on-flesh love.

6. Relax. Take your time. Touch her all over. Don’t got straight for her crotch. Undress her slowly, appreciating every newly exposed piece of flesh. Kiss her elbows. Touch her breasts. Blow softly in her ear. Kiss her neck. Caress her belly, her inner thighs. Kiss behind her knees. Smell under her arms. Massage her buttocks. Slowly suck on her fingers. Get naked and lay your body on top of hers. There’s so much erotic fun you can have before you ever even touch her pubic area. Enjoy.

7. Communicate. Ask her what she wants. Ask her if what you’re doing feels good. Tell her where you want to be touched. Communication is key to any good sexual relationship. If she’s doing something you like, moan or purr to let her know that feels good.

8. Have realistic expectations. Your first time with a lover should be about getting to know her body, getting to know how to turn her on and learning what your chemistry is. Orgasm may or may not happen the first time. That’s okay. The point is to get physical, get close, express your feelings of love or desire.

9. Here are some information and “How To’s” of Lesbian Sex.

How to: Tribadism:

Tribadism is very pleasurable. It's what some call frottage (from the French verb "to rub") and others call dry humping or dry f**king (though it's not necessarily very dry!) Basically, tribadism is grinding your vulva against some part of your partner's body. You can hump a partner's thigh, rub vulva to pubic bone, or vulva to tailbone. You can do it with clothes on or off. If you have an extremely responsive clit, you may especially appreciate the indirect stimulation. Book to get on Amazon :  The Whole Lesbian Sex Book

Fisting How To:

Here's How:

1. In order for the vaginal walls to open wide enough for your had to fit in, she must be highly aroused. Spend lots of time doing what ever it takes to turn her on.
2. In order to receive a hand into her vagina, a woman must be very relaxed. Fisting can be very intense, so make sure if the woman on the receiving end needs to stop, that you do. She should be the one in charge of this situation.
3. Plan to use lots of lubricant (amazon.com-Sliquid Swirl is a great brand) and wear a latex glove for protection from sexually transmitted diseases.
4. Insert one or two fingers at a time. She may enjoy clitoral stimulation as you do this.
5. The idea is to try and get your hand as small as possible. Cup your four fingers around your thumb so your hand is a skinny as it can get.
6. With your knuckles facing the posterior (bottom) of her vagina, slowly rotate your hand, while gently pushing in.
7. Getting your knuckles through is the most difficult part. Add more lube if needed. She should be breathing deep breaths and trying to relax. Again, if it is too much for her, stop.
8. A slight rotation of the wrist should be all you need to get past her pubic bone and inside her vagina.
9. Your hand will naturally curl up once inside. Once you are inside you can hold still, gently move in and out, or gently rotate your wrist.
10. Fisting can be intense and make you partner feel vulnerable. Remember it is her pleasure you are after. Respect her wishes.
11. Latex Glove and lots of water based lubricant.

NOTE: Not all women will be able to tolerate fisting. If she can't handle it, stop!, Lube! Lube! Lube! And more Lube!, Communication is essential in an intense act like fisting. Make sure you and your partner understand each other., If you are acting out a scene has a "safe word" that means stop.

How to make a safe sex barrier from a glove

1. Cut 4 fingers off glove, leaving the thumb in place.
2. Slit up the side opposite the thumb.
3. Rinse talcum off glove.
4. Put some water-base lubricant on the side with the thumb protruding.
5. Place the lubricated side on your partner's vulva.
6. Hold the glove in place with both hands, or have your partner hold it covering her labia.
7. Use your tongue to stimulate your partner. Insert your tongue into the thumb for extra fun.
8. After sex, be sure to dispose of glove safely. Turn it inside out and wash your hands. Only use each glove once.

What is my G-Spot?

The G-Spot is an area on the front wall of your vagina that when stimulated, can cause women to orgasm and sometimes ejaculate. For some women, stimulating the G-Spot creates a more intense orgasm than clitorial stimulation. Not all women can have an orgasm through G-Spot stimulation. 

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Female Ejaculation

How can you tell if you ejaculate? You might notice a gush of wetness right before orgasm. Or you might experience a nice big spray of come at orgasm. Potentially, all women can ejaculate and if you'd like, you can learn how.

You can explore your urethral sponge (or G-spot) with a firm, curved dildo or your fingers. Insert your fingers or dildo, aiming for the front wall of the vagina. Stroke this area with a "come hither" motion. If you use your fingers, you'll feel the difference in texture between this area, which is rough, and the rest of the vaginal walls, which are smooth. Some women like to stimulate the opening of the vagina just below the urethra. You can also press down on your pelvis with your free hand, applying pressure just above the pubic bone. Stimulate your G-spot until you feel intensely turned on and like you're about to pee. As you approach orgasm, push out, as if urinating. The stream you produce is ejaculate.