Dear Salty Vixen, My boyfriend and I have been going out for two years and our sex life is getting kind of boring. We do the same thing almost every time. Every once in a while we will do something different. But we really need some new ideas. What suggestions do you have?
Answer:Â Variety is the spice of your sex life! It is easy to get caught in the repetition of doing the same thing over and over. I imagine it comes from the ideal that if it works, there's no need to fix it. Unfortunately, like you pointed out, this way of thinking can get boring over time. So how do you remedy a lifeless love affair? Incorporate a variety of new activities for lovemaking. Instead of relying on the old "How many positions can we try tonight?" theory, rethink the way you go about making love together. Here are few ideas to get you started.
Play A Lover's Game
A couple's game takes the guess work out of trying new things. Just playing the game and following the actions described provides enough variety. Stock up with two to three different games and you will have a continuous way to create variety in the bedroom. Our favorites include: SexPlay, French Kiss Massage and Strip Chocolate.
Watch An Erotic Movie
This doesn't mean go out and get the latest porn flick, although that could be fun as well! Tempt each other with the wild love scenes from some of Hollywood's steamiest movies. Some of our favorites are Henry and June, 9 1/2 Weeks and Original Sin.
Try A Change Of Location
The setting you're in can go a long way to creating a memorable experience. Try a few different places in your home, and see which ones become your favorites. For quickies, try the stairs, a sofa, a kitchen chair or the shower. Each location can provide you with a new way to go about your lovemaking. Make sure you're maximizing each area's potential.
Use Your Sensuality
Some very common activities are often easily overlooked as sensual opportunities. Next time you're taking a bath, invite your love. When you're watching TV, reach over and give a sensual massage. If he's on the computer...go down under. When you go out to dinner, forget your under garments, and let him know. Try to turn ordinary events into something sensual, and you'll quickly put an end to boring sex.
