You have stashes of magazines, Redtube sites... and maybe some memberships to internet porn sites that you hide from your girl. One day, she finds a bunch of your favorite movies tucked away in the back of the closet and she becomes curious. The silence on porn is finally broken, and the choice between ice cream and pie becomes irrelevant. It just might be possible to have both.
Combining your interest in porn with the woman you share a bed with is the dawn of a new age. Is this intriguing? Yes. More importantly, is it possible? Again, yes, depending on the woman and how you handle the situation. Once the conversation begins, and as long as she feels absolutely no pressure or judgment from you, it could be time to break out the porn. The great thing about naughty porn (and it is free for the most part! Redtube is huge) is that they wield the power to inflame the senses and heat up your sex lives -- on the floor, in the bedroom, on the desk, in the bathroom, on the stairs or anywhere else your passion strikes you.
Of course, you have a long way to go from curiosity to enjoyment, even if she wants to try some visual aids. The way to win her appreciation and capture her interest is to focus on her preferences and to stay away from her dislikes. A first foray into porn is not the time for you to bring out the hardcore and ridiculously rendered movies, such as midget porn. Here are some general rules, guidelines and movie choices for popping your girlfriend’s porno cherry.
Vintage erotica
Classic and unthreatening, vintage porn is a gentle gateway into this billion-dollar industry. If your girl is generally unfamiliar with porn, you don’t want to turn her off with the modern camera angles, wide-angled close-ups and celebrity porn stars. At this stage, it would be wise to introduce her slowly; let her watch the expressions, hear the moans and see the thrusting motions of the actors in such vintage classics as Behind the Green Door, Debbie Does Dallas and Deep Throat. You both could have a swinging good time watching women shag on shag carpeting or watching big hair and tight pants in fevered disco frenzy. With films like these, a little embarrassment or anxiety is easily cured with laughter. A web search will grant the two of you all kinds of goodies in vintage porn.
Woman power
Do you know what women want? What turns them on? If you don’t, go to the source: another woman. Porn that is directed, scripted and acted by women has a particular genteel romanticism and softness. In other words, there is some semblance of a plot, good-looking men and decent production. While your girlfriend may not appreciate the hard pounding that a girl may be taking by one or five guys, she might enjoy watching that girl with another girl or being tenderly taken by a very handsome man. Women focus on the details and won’t be turned on by a well-hung, apish man -- think of the “Hedgehog.” Remember: You want her to be turned on.
Porn scripted and directed by women has become very popular in recent years. Some companies also make porn for couples, such as Urban Friction by Marianna Beck, which features more interaction within the couple. Some other woman-friendly and female-directed porn titles include Uniform Behavior by Anna Span and Chemistry by Tristan Taormino.
Fluff and fantasy
Take a good movie and turn it into a farcical rendition that’s heavy with sex scenes and amazingly bad acting. This is the fantasy-adventure sex romp of modern-day porn. I haven’t found a decently acted would-be movie with lots of sex, but if you and your girlfriend want to laugh until you cry, cringe at the acting and feel mightily superior in your bedroom role playing, pick a movie you like and find a similar title in the XXX section. Some sexual-spoof titles include the Blair B*tch Project and Pirates, which had an unprecedented $1 million budget, and starred Carmen Luvana, Jesse Jane and Devon. I did warn you about the acting.
The don'ts
Don’t push. Getting your girl to enjoy porn as much as you do might not be easy to accomplish; then again, she might like it even more. However, her choice to watch at all is her choice. If she is uncomfortable, doesn’t like the subject matter or is noticeably disturbed by certain aspects or fetishes, stay away from those types of movies. If she has voiced her views on certain sexual practices that she finds offensive, steer clear of any titles that include those acts.
Dirty tactics of guilt and forceful persuasion are unpleasant and ineffective. She will resent you and your actions, and feel even more averse to watching. Also, “selling” her on something you want to try, such as anal sex, by having her watch some woman get treated to some back-door action, is a very big no-no. Her exploration of sex on Redtube.com will die quickly if you push it in such an unpleasant way.
RATED XXX
Porn is a great way to enhance sex. If she is willing to view some steamy movies, conducting some research is the least you can do. You should be safe if you talk about her preferences and stay away from her dislikes. It really is about what she wants to see and not about what you want. You gotta give some to get some. Finally, let her have the remote so she can stop, fast forward or rewind as she likes. Let her be in control and watch her “come” alive. Take pleasure in the view.
