One thing that I like to do from time to time, is to join a group of single women at a club or a bar, and kind of pick their brain when it comes to dating and relationships. I like to think of it as “market research” in a way.
I have to tell you, some of the things that women will say about dating might SHOCK you.
I also want to point out that even just a few years ago, I would have never been the kind of guy to just target a group of single women and just get them to open up and talk about dating and relationships.
What most guys seem to think about women is completely and totally off base. They think that women want be treated like little princesses and want to meet a guy with a great secure job, and honestly, most women are not really putting these things too high on their priority list.
Now, I will say that none of these are absolutes. Yes, you are going to come across some women that basically expect to be treated like a queen, and you are going to find women that tend to focus on finding a guy with that secure job and that is more important than anything else.
But, the broad majority of single women that I come across, do not bring these things up that much. And even when they do, it usually comes after a long list of other things.
Here are the top three topics or really qualities that the broad majority of women seem to rate highly in men that they would be interested in dating:
1. A sense of humor.
This one might surprise a lot of guys, not because you don’t think that a woman wants a guy that can make her laugh, but on how important this one quality is. And if you really look at it and think about it, it makes a lot of sense. Women are open to a lot more dating opportunities than guys are.
You might not care so much about whether or not a woman makes you laugh, especially if she has a good body, but a woman knows that she can attract guys. That’s not the issue. The issue is, can she attract a guy that is fun to be around. And a guy that has a playful sense of humor is going to be a lot more fun for her to be around.
2. A sense of style.
Take a look at some of the high profile guys that are successful with women. Guys that are pro athletes, entertainers, and actors. Most of them have a very unique style about them. Now, take a look at most guys that you see at the mall or just around town. Most of them look pretty much the same as one another, not many of them have their own signature look.
Well, when a guy has that signature look, his own style that makes him stand out in a crowd, women take notice. I was at a club one time with 4 young women, and there was this guy there that to me, looked kind of foolish. But to tell you the truth, he did stand out. And I pointed this guy out to these girls and asked them if they liked that look. All 4 of them nodded their heads and said that they did. I asked why, and the basic thought was just simply, that he had his own style. And they were all impressed with that.
3. A sense of confidence.
I know, you hear it till you are blue in the face. Women dig a guy with confidence. Well, the reason why you hear it till you are blue in the face is because it is true. Think about it like this. A woman does look at a man as kind of a “protector” of sorts, it doesn’t matter how modern of a woman she is, she is still going to look at him through those eyes.
Now, picture that same woman looking at a guy that does not have the confidence to be himself or to speak up when needed. Is she going to feel that same protection from him? No, she is going to disconnect from that feeling, and when that happens, the attraction also usually seems to go out the window.
