Being in a sexless relationship is not something most people would be proud of. In fact, in our society, we are often judged by the state of our marriage and no one wants to become a topic of gossip.
When your marriage or relationship becomes sexless, this is even harder to talk about as there’s a great taboo on this topic and while society is slowly coming to grips with it, there is still quite a ways to go before this can be openly discussed without all sorts of silly people smirking, laughing, shaking their heads, or thinking nasty things about you or your partner.
This is why a lot of people tend to keep the fact that they’re living in a sexless relationship to themselves. They don’t want other people to know about what they’re going through. They want to be able to make it seem like everything is alright. They don’t want to feel embarrassed.
But is this really a good thing? Is this the course of action you should take? Should you keep the fact that your relationship has lost its passion to yourself or should you share it?
Naturally, there are pros and cons to sharing this with someone that you need to consider. In the end, the decision is ultimately yours alone. No one can make it for you.
Let’s go over some of the things you need to consider, both the pros and the cons.
Pros:
- One of the traps you shouldn’t allow yourself to fall into is trying to make everything appear to be alright. You may end up believing it yourself. It’s very easy to disregard what’s really going on in your life and hope that things will improve on their own. They probably won’t. You need to take action to fix your sexless marriage. It won’t happen otherwise.
- Telling someone your troubles is therapeutic. It can bring a lot of relief. Doesn’t it feel like a heavy burden that you’re carrying, this secret? Trust me, it may be a great feeling of satisfaction to share this with someone and not feel alone anymore.
- You’re in this relationship. You feel the anguish, frustration, confusion, and pain involved. You may be unable to come up with solutions or good ideas to make it better. This is where a new perspective may come in handy, may prove to be the way to a better reality. You can only find this person if you’re willing to share what you think with someone.
Cons:
- Naturally, there is some risk in exposing yourself. You need to make sure you share this with someone you can trust to keep this to themselves.
- Don’t let telling someone else prevent you from addressing this issue with your partner. This is the one true way to solve this.
I do believe that sharing can be a good idea. Find a good friend, someone loyal to you, and seek their advice. It can be one of the best things you’ve ever done.
