Science has weighed in to tell the world exactly how much time they should be spending making love: 5.4 minutes. But here's an even more important "fact" for you: Even if science cannot possibly back it up, there are women who believe that's twice as long as necessary and women who believe it should last a minimum of four times longer. There are men who would be embarrassed to realize that's the amount of time that's lapsed, and there are men who would kill to make it last that long (50 percent of guys, after all, cop to it lasting less than two minutes). It's a decent number, really, if you were to sit still right now and allow that amount of time to go by in the solitude of your own home. But let's talk about making it last longer anyway, shall we?
1. Masturbate beforehand:
This is one of the more popular practices out there—if not the most popular—but it will not help you at all if you don't do it right. Especially if it's your first time with a woman. I once dashed for the bathroom to take care of business solo, exiting minutes later certain there was no way I wouldn't take at least a good, well... 5.4 minutes, only to ejaculate even quicker than I had when I was alone. But I'm not dismissing the theory entirely. The secret is multiple masturbation sensations prior to the lovemaking, twice a day every day. And throw a little edging in there; while masturbating, get into the habit of getting yourself right to the point of ejaculation only to stop, and then start up all over again. Once you "master" that while alone, you just might be able to with someone else in the room. Then you've got a shot. Literally
2. Think about baseball:
Just as popular a theory as #1, you actually risk losing your erection rather than premature ejaculating. Some have said think of your grandmother. The risk gets even greater! But how about grandma playing baseball? Psychological profiles have revealed that a man with a lot on his mind, whether intentional or unintentional, will take longer. The secret is to either jumble a bunch of preposterous scenarios together, or double down and think about a problem at work combined with that one ex you simply can't stand. The lovemaking may get less tender, but your hang time will be laudable.
3. Finish her first:
Now there's a novel concept! It makes sense, doesn't it? Sadly, it doesn't mean you'll last any longer once you've begun making love; if anything, you run the risk of going even quicker, as the foreplay should—if done correctly—have you more excited than you already were. But, technically speaking, your time between the sheets will still have gone on longer than it ordinarily would have. And beyond that, you'll have the opportunity while "downstairs" to control your breathing, thereby pacing yourself. Yes, the way you breathe also affects how quickly you ejaculate. Sexperts say it's all about breathing slowly from your diaphragm.
4. Drink:
This is tricky terrain. Of course having some liquid courage in ya is going to make the deed last longer, but no girl—and I mean no girl—wants to be hammered away at by the guy who kept shouting "Jameson's!" all night like it was the bartender's name and he was his roommate in college. This is about knowing yourself. Not your limit, either—your drinking as it relates to sex limit, and that's a decidedly different one. Me personally? Two drinks and a shot. I'm not sloppy, no speech is slurred and ejaculation is definitely gonna show at the shindig. Plus, the booze will settle your nerves and scientists agree that, biologically-speaking , insecurity makes you stressed; your body can tell when you’re stressed and responds accordingly.
5. Desensitize:
More tricky terrain. A friend of mine once confided that he'd purchased a lube that rendered his penis completely devoid of any sensation. Perfect, right? Stimulation became impossible within minutes of smearing the scented cream all over his Johnson. Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRI’s) are medications designed to treat depression, but can be used by men in order to slow down and reduce the chances of premature ejaculation. Here it is important to consider that there can be side effects, including reduced fertility, nausea, sweating, decreased sex drive, fatigue and bowel disturbance. Don't be Ben still blowing up the bathroom while Jennifer Aniston is in red boy shorts in bed waiting on ya.
6. Hit the gym:
If you're a health freak, or just plain into fitness already, then perfect. If not, hey, do you wanna get laid or not? The best way to improve your ejaculatory control is to strengthen the muscles that control ejaculation. Makes sense. One word: kegels. Locate your “Pubococcygeus muscle,” which is the muscle you’ll be flexing in order to last longer, orgasm harder and orgasm without ejaculating. Put a finger or two on the skin between your legs behind your balls, but before your anus. Doing kegel exercises is just a matter of flexing that muscle multiple times, for different durations. As the PC muscle gets stronger you’ll be able to hold for longer and more intensely, which will in turn make it easier to control your ejaculation. Basically, it's a "pause" button and, go figure, we've all got one.
7. Squeeze:
There is something called "the squeeze method" or "squeeze technique" . It involves squeezing the end of the penis immediately before ejaculation and occurs for about thirty seconds, therefore reducing the urge to release. Repeat the process at least five times until you no longer want to delay your orgasm. This method should be practiced over several months in order to gain recognition of your orgasm threshold, so you can successfully build up self-control and dominate your ejaculation in bed. This was touched upon (pun intended) in slide one, but this is a very specific move. For the life of me I don't know how it's possible if said penis is inside a woman at the time but... ya know... science and all.
8. Go for counseling:
Not a fan. But if one can reap awards from it, and in this case that reward being a nice romp in the sack, then I'm all about it. For guys suffering from long-term emotional intimacy issues, consulting with sex therapy programs might not only be wise, but it might also be totally necessary. In-depth therapy will allow you to address the mental issues that cause premature ejaculation by accepting your body, decreasing your insecurities and focusing on assuring your partner’s pleasure during sex. You can go solo, or bring along the lady in life. When it comes to the latter, you'll score major points just for doing it... and no doubt a ton of fellatio.
9. Get fat:
Got your attention? I don't necessarily mean "fat," but a recent study done in Turkey did reveal that men as much as 20 pounds overweight last a full two minutes longer in bed than the Average Joe. We're talking seven or so minutes versus five or so, boys. Are you willing to stuff your face to go that distance? It was noted how patients with lifelong premature ejaculation tended to be thinner, and that incident rates dropped as weight increased.
10. Don't get attached:
Wanna make sure you can go a good long time? Simply don't like who you take to bed. Get this: You can even find her attractive. But if you truly don't like the person she is—or, at the very least, who you perceive her to be—then your hang time will be just fine. It's not "hate f***ing", either. (I hate that term.) It's being attracted to someone physically, and lonely at the same time, but getting so turned off by every utterance, every stance, even just the sound of her voice (key to not coming), that it'll take some of the most creative dirty talk you've ever heard to get you off. Unless, of course, you really went the distance with that grating voice thing
