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Boring Sex=Bad Sex

Sure, two people can lie on top of each other and, ahem, let their stuff co-mingle and such, and that’s all fine and dandy, except it’s been done about 50 billion times! Also, if you and your partner aren’t compatible lovers, then sex can be very difficult. In any relationship I’m in, whether it be with a man or a woman (I’m a bisexual male), I prefer to be the one who’s NOT wearing the pants (umm, no pun intended). So, if my partner wants me to be the aggressive one, maybe, it honestly makes me sort of uncomfortable.
—Guest person42

Bad Sex Is Complicated

Bad sex is sex that makes you unhappy. My husband and I rarely have sex, and when we do it doesn’t always last that long and usually ends in tears. He makes me feel ugly and rejected. This in turn makes him feel guilty, and me feel even worse. I sometimes wonder if anyone would ever want me, but it doesn’t matter because I would never leave my husband. I just want to feel wanted. Being married to someone you love, but feeling alone – that’s bad sex.
—Hanski86

All men seem to think that women enjoy oral sex…which we do, if its done right. Most guys have no idea what feels good though. They stick their tongue where they shouldn’t and when they finally do get to the right spot, they start licking with so much dedication, you start screaming from pain. If you don’t know what you’re doing, you better let your partner know!
—Guest Dee

So he was gorgeous. Three years older than me, lived on his own in the city. He was a model. He was in a band. And he liked me and I was quite chuffed. And now I am assuring that I never see him again, because he was completely selfish in bed. Pretty people make for bad sex, because they think they can get away with it, and if you don’t put up with their crap they can easily get someone else who will. That is all.
—Guest strangelove18

It is only two minutes of action, I don’t even get to experience any sexual pleasure. By the time I blink, the moment has ended. I have given up on having sex and right now I”m trying really hard not to have an affair.
—Guest VISHANA

After spending four years initiating sex, I have all but given up!! It has always been one sided and at first I put it down to lack of confidence but now I realize a lot is down to him being just completely selfish. He has never gone out of his way to try to satisfy me. I actually can’t be bothered now and if I didn’t love him I would leave….
—Guest miss t

Well I’ve been in a relationship for two years and the sex was amazing the first year. I was fit and active but now I am 30lbs heavier and I can’t stand the sight of myself naked. However, my boyfriend is as eager to make love to me now as he was the first time we did it. I make him upset because I am not in the mood and I’m always insecure. He, on the other hand, lost weight and looks damn good so that makes me feel worse. When it comes to sex I don’t want to get on top anymore and the room has to be dark. He says I’m over reacting and he is more turned off by my insecurity than my actual weight gain. Any suggestions
—lustyluciano

I’ve been with my husband for 7 years and married for 4. The sex is not good at all! Lately it’s been worse. I’ve tried the mean way of telling him and it didn’t work. It’s just that I have to be on top if I want to have an orgasm. I’m tired of it. I’ve had other boyfriends in the past and OMG I should have stayed. It’s just wack and I wish sex wasn’t even a factor in this relationship. I hate to do the work, And thats all he wants me to do. I rather use a toy than to have him inside of me going at it like a damn bunny rabbit! lol
—Guest Guest Tired of It

My boyfriend is extremely selfish in the bedroom. He basically jumps on top and masturbates inside me. It’s like I’m not even there. But I take it because he’s not that into sex so if I want anything I guess that’s better than nothing. He never kisses me and the most affection I get from him when we’re not having sex is a slap on the arse.
—Member73

One sided sex to me means when the partner you are with only seems to focus on what feels good to them. I have been in my current relationship for 2 years now and I have had 1 orgasm. My 2 previous relationships of 9 years and 4 years I always had orgasms! The last time I had sex with my boyfriend I cried. He told me maybe there was something wrong with me. He doesn’t French kiss me, pay any attention to my breasts, or say anything at all that is sexy to me. The reason women choose the BAD BOY men is because BAD BOYS are amazing in the bedroom, and good sex makes any relationship better. I am about ready to break up with my boyfriend because I have told him many times we need to work on this and he never does. He is a good person in many other ways, but BAD SEX has totally ruined our relationship. I wonder if it will matter to him after I have broken up with him? He could have chosen to work on things, but maybe the bigger problem here is that he is SELFISH!!!
—tgirl1969

I’m always tired and would rather sleep than have sex with my wife. She uses a dildo often and I feel mega guilty. I just don’t know what to do. I want sex, but my drive to do it feels like it’s just too much work.
—Guest Ben

I realize I have given up enjoying sex with my boyfriend. It never lasts long enough for me to get any pleasure and he doesn’t seem to know how to do anything pleasurable. I have had amazing sex…. This is not it. He doesn’t just have a short fuse… His development is lacking. I can barely feel him!!
—Guest Frustrated

At 51 he says he just doesn’t have a sexual drive. He says he loves me and there is more to companionship then sex! Yes I agree but I feel unattractive frustrated. When we have sex he never responds, or applies himself. I have always considered myself a good lover based on my exes. I even went to two of my exes and talked to them hoping to figure it out! So why with him is it so difficult to have a good sex life and the intimacy I crave? I am at my wits end. I love him & feel shallow I am ready to leave the best thing I ever had in my life, hard feeling unwanted!
—lostinakron

You know what makes bad sex? When your man doesn’t shower for two weeks and his feet stink! BIG turn off.
—Guest vickie

My partner bragged about his prowess for months before we ever got together, and how he takes pride in pleasing women. When we finally got together, he was unable to perform, and didn’t care to please me either. I thought he just wasn’t that into me. Turns out, he has had erectile disfunction for two years, and didn’t tell me. I was crushed and thought I was a lousy sex partner. He finally confessed days later and sought medical help.
—Guest Veronica

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